My Unexpected Journey to Becoming a Stay at Home Mom

Leaving the corporate world to become a Stay at Home Mom was an easy decision that surprised me more than anyone. If you would have asked me  about my career plans 7 months ago, right before Blake was born, I would tell you that I planned to keep working and building my career. You see, I’ve always had a job ever since I was 14 years old. The day I turned 14 and was of legal age to work in California, I marched myself into Baskin Robbins/Togos and got myself a minimum-wage job scooping ice cream and making sandwiches – I was ecstatic for a paycheck all my own!

I continued working through my high school graduation and then moved to San Diego to attend San Diego State University where I found 2 more jobs that allowed me to put myself through college. At times it was difficult to juggle class, selling advertising space for SDSU’s school newspaper during the day and waitressing at night and on the weekends – but I managed to graduate in four years. The week before I threw my black hat up into the air and celebrated my college graduation, I had already received a job offer from a company in Orange County as an entry-level sales and marketing associate.  It was a great first corporate job and despite me living in San Diego, I was thrilled at the opportunity. I commuted to Orange County bright and early every morning because I felt lucky to have landed a job straight out of college.

As the years passed I continued to bounce around from job to job, pushing myself higher and higher, gaining more real-world experience and building more equity in myself. When I landed my dream job with Hyatt Hotels, I thought, I’ve made it – this is exactly where I’m supposed to be. Flash forward four years later and I was running the marketing department at one of the largest properties on the west coast. Nice suits, a new slick car I bought for myself and an office with a view – I felt important, driven and had big plans to keep scaling that corporate ladder.

The point of all this is that working is in my blood, my DNA, and I’ve worked hard for everything I have.  I don’t know how to not work. So when Blake graced us with her presence last November, I honestly didn’t think my mindset would change all that much. I had an amazing job waiting for me and big plans for my future. And taking into account all of my hard work, since I was 14 years old, how could I turn my back on my self-bought education and all of the years I spent investing in myself?

It’s funny how becoming a parent makes you blind and awakened at the same time. Once Blake was born, something changed in me. I wanted to be there when she laughed for the first time, when she said her first word and when she took her first step – I wanted to raiser her. I could care less about my journey to success – I suddenly was blind to all of those years I spent building my career – they didn’t matter as much to me anymore.   This little family that Mike and I had suddenly created – this was where I was supposed to be. It was so crystal clear and I didn’t doubt it for a second. I was also extremely lucky that I even had the option of becoming a stay-at-home-mom. I know many mothers don’t have that option because of financial reasons or don’t want to put their career on hold, and I totally get it and sympathize with them – but everyone has their own journey.

The Journey is the Destination

I love the quote, “The journey is the destination”. Even though I had bigger plans for my career, I didn’t miss out on the destination – my journey was the destination – and a destination that led me to a beautiful life, loving husband and adorable baby girl.  Now, I still do some marketing consulting on the side and of course I run this blog as a creative outlet, (remember, I don’t know how to not work?) but my full time job is raising Little Miss Blake. And forget fancy suits and an office with a view – this is the most important job I’ll ever have.

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10 thoughts on “My Unexpected Journey to Becoming a Stay at Home Mom

  1. This was the sweetest post ever. We’re such twins and this is so true. Couldn’t have written it better myself! Love our journeys :)

    • Thank you Shell! Love that we are twins – you are an awesome mother and I’m so glad Blake and I get to spend so much time with you and Tanner!

  2. This post really grabbed me! Thank you so much for articulating your experience so eloquently. I feel so grateful that I am able to be a stay at home mom but every so often I have these nagging feelings that I lost my old career driven self. However, when I see Jonah smile, reach a new milestone, or even sleep, I am quickly reminded of how special and meaningful my new career is!

    • So true, Sara! I feel the same way sometimes thinking about my past career, but then Blake will do one tiny thing and I remember why I chose this new “career” in the first place. We are lucky! :)

  3. And the best view you will ever have. I am tearing reading your post. i am so glad you decided to be a stay at home mom and create this amazing blog. I love your stories and it brings me back to when I started, how we met and how everything for us is the way it is supposed to me. Being a mom is great and I am glad to share the journey with someone so sweet and honest as you. Thank you for sharing. xoxo!

    • Thanks Angela! You were one of my inspirations to starting this blog, so thank YOU! And I’m so happy to be able to work with you on SDMNO too! xo

  4. Oh, Kristin! Randy and I could not be more happy for you, Blake, and Mike. What a heartwarming post! Your happiness radiates out from your writing; it’s like a big blanket of joy over my shoulders. Life is good!

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