9 Things Pregnant Women Are Sick of Hearing From Strangers

things pregnant women are sick of hearing from strangers

I want to clarify that this post does not pertain to my beloved family and close friends – people I don’t mind getting personal with and sharing details of my life with. This one is dedicated to the Nosy Nancy’s of the world who I’ve never met before and will never see again after our little “encounters”.

Now well into my second pregnancy, I’ve noticed that strangers LOVE talking to me about my pregnancy. It’s really quite baffling. I sort of noticed it during my first pregnancy, but I was just so enthralled in my new state of maternity that I didn’t mind the questions and sometimes off-putting remarks. Now that this is my second time around and the nostalgia of being pregnant has faded, some words for the wise: No, I don’t want to talk to you about it; yes, you’re being too personal, and for the love of God, DO.NOT. touch my stomach. You’ve been warned…

1. When are you due? 
I know, I know – this is the inevitable question – but must we really share with these complete strangers the presumed birth date of our new baby? I always wonder – what’s in it for them? So they can quickly calculate how far along I am in the 9 month journey and then make a judgement call on if my stomach looks “about 8 months” large?

2. Are There Twins In There?
This one always comes from old men who think they’re being funny. I get it, I get it – you’re making a joke because I’m so hugely pregnant. You’re hilarious, sir…really, you should be a comedian.

3. You Look Great!
This is all well and fine, but I mostly dislike the tone that accompanies this “compliment” — which is usually pure shock. It’s as if they picture all pregnant women laid up on the couch, sitting pretty at 500 pounds and stuffing their faces with donuts. (OK, while I might not be 500 pounds, there’s been a time or two – or maybe every Sunday – when I’ve been posted up on the couch with some maple bars).

4. Wow, They’ll Be Close in Age
This one usually follows the “when are you due” question. And after the complete stranger has computed my personal life (what month of pregnancy I’m in and the age of my toddler), the light bulb goes off for them: this woman’s kids will be close in age. Thank you, Captain Obvious! And from here there’s a 50/50 chance that they’ll either go into their experience of also having children close in age and tell you stories of how well they played together or, they take the negative route and say, good luck – I can’t imagine having two under two! Big gulps.

5. Let Me Guess — it’s a Girl! (or Boy!)
I always think it’s odd when complete strangers try to guess the gender of my unborn baby. Do they think they have some sort of psychic power? I blame it on all the old wives tales like, “if a pregnant woman is carrying high, it’s a girl — low, it’s a boy” and other assumptions that make every Suzie Q at the grocery store a maternity expert. I secretly love when they get it wrong though: Nope, nosy Nancy – it’s a boy. Better luck next time. 

6. You’re All Belly
I know this is meant to be a sweet gesture but really, they’re not fooling anyone. What are they going to tell me instead, “Wow, your arms are looking really FAT!” Or, “Yikes, look at the size of your thighs.” And let’s be honest, they didn’t know how I looked before pregnancy so can they really comment now on the fact that I’ve only gained weight in my mid-section? Me thinks not.

7. Have You Had Any Weird Cravings?
This one always makes me feel like they think I’m a mad woman who can’t control my eating habits (don’t look her straight in the eye or she might try to steal our bagel – these pregos are unpredictable!) And again, what’s in it for the questioner? So she can go home and tell her husband over dinner tonight that she met a pregnant woman at Starbucks who will only eat chocolate covered pickles with sprinkle on top? I refuse to be a part of the gossip chain so I usually reply with a smile, “just salty things.”

8. Your Bump is So Cute
I know this one is well-meaning but honey, I do NOT feel cute right now; carrying my 19 month old on one hip and trying to push the cart at Target with my hair disheveled and wearing my prego uniform including my husband’s baggy t-shirt and my tried-and-true yoga pants (even though I haven’t been to yoga since my daughter was born). But, thanks, complete stranger, thanks for trying. And again my question; what’s the alternative? “Wow, mam, you have an ugly bump – it looks abnormal. Really, you should get that checked.”

9. Can I Touch It?
Umm, excuse me, have we met? Can I awkwardly touch your shoulder and invade your personal space? If your answer is “no” to either of those questions, then my answer is most definitely, NO! And, spoiler alert: it feels like a basketball!

Baby Bloggy Bootcamp

This post is written by me on behalf of Liz Lange and Ergobaby.  Product was provided.

I originally found out about the Baby Bloggy Bootcamp in San Diego last month from the trusty Rookie Moms (I just love those two) who were also speakers at the event. After looking at the line-up and learning that we could bring our babies to the actual conference, I was eager to attend!

Baby Bloggy Bootcamp

The day was full of helpful information that pertained especially to new bloggers and mommy bloggers (which hit home for me in both categories). It was so much fun to be in a room filled with fellow women bloggers who were also mothers. Talk about a sense of camaraderie. I especially loved the tips from Tiffany Romero and Francesca Banducci (Founders of Sits Girls) about the key components that should be found on every blog – from SEO tips and tricks to best practices for sponsored content. I found it all extremely helpful.

baby bloggy bootcamp

The Swag

I’m all about swag, especially when it’s really, really good swag – like the products we all received at the Baby Bloggy Bootcamp.

ErgoBaby really spoiled us all with a new Ergobaby 4-position 360 Carrier, Ergobaby Swaddler and Ergobaby Wrap.

ergobaby

The new Ergobaby Four-Position 360 carrier is amazing. As you may have gathered from its name, it offers 4 different positions including a new, front-facing position. During the conference, Ergobaby demonstrated how to use this new product – which I found very helpful, even though it is extremely easy to use! I tried it out with Blake as soon as we got home and she fell right asleep in the comfortable carrier – snug as a bug in a rug! I can’t wait until she gets a little older so I can try the front-facing position.

Ergobaby 360 carrier

We also received a beautiful Liz Lange maternity dress. The fabric on this dress is so soft and very figure flattering for your baby bump. This is weird to say, but it made me want to be pregnant again! Having the baby bump is so much fun. And although I’m not currently pregnant, I know firsthand how hard it is to find luxury, stylish maternity pieces that are also affordable. I’ll definitely be putting this Liz Lange dress to good use during my next pregnancy and will happily check out the rest of their maternity clothing line, available at Target.

I also loved the samples of Honest Diapers, which I’ve been wanting to try on Blake for a while, and the cutest (and most delicious) candy I’ve had in a long time, from Sugarwish.

honest diapers         sugarwish

 

All in all it was a wonderful event and I hope to attend another Sway Group event in the near future.

 

This post is written by me on behalf of Liz Lange and Ergobaby.  Product was provided.

The Top 10 Maternity Outfits I’m Loving for Fall

I just need to get this off my chest – most maternity clothes are not cute. In fact, most are a single thread away from hideous. I was just about to write-off maternity clothes altogether and accept my dreaded fate of wearing my husband’s oversized t-shirts and sweatpants when I came across some great brands who offer some (dare I say it out loud) stylish pieces. Because who says pregnant women can’t rock the latest fashion trends?

Here are my Top 10 maternity outfit picks that I’m loving for Fall 2013:

1. Isabella Oliver Leather Legging from ASOS: I’ve been pinning tons of leather pants on my My Style Pinterest board, promising myself that next fall/winter I’d be able to wear this trendy piece. But alas, Elizabeth Oliver came to the rescue with maternity leather leggings, available at ASOS!

Isabella Oliver Leather Legging from ASOS

2. Isabella Oliver Swing Dress from ASOS: The perfect casual dress for San Diego “fall” weather! Just add some trendy ankle boots and this look is complete!

Isabella Oliver Swing Dress from ASOS

3. Luxlight Rugby Stripe Pullover from Gap Maternity: If this piece is not Sunday-football worthy then I don’t know what is.  So cute, I want one in every color.

Luxlight rugby stripe pullover from Gap maternity

4.  Mama Dress from H&M: I think they meant hot Mama in the description. Can you ever go wrong with a piece from H&M? (the answer is no.) Love the color and the belt and I especially love this with tights and ankle boots!

Mama Dress H&M

5. Maternity Exclusive Body-Conscious Dress In Lace With Ribbon Detail from ASOS: Perfect for any fancy event scheduled this Fall. Also looks good with a mock-tini in hand.

Maternity Exclusive Body-Conscious Dress In Lace With Ribbon Detail from ASOS

6. Maternity Midi Tulip Dress With Ruching from ASOS: I’m just so excited that this dress comes in navy! Classic, gorgeous and a must-have for any special occasion happening between the months of September and November.

Maternity Midi Tulip Dress With Ruching from ASOS

7.  The Hang-out Dress from Hatch CollectionComfort and style meets shabby-chic. I like how this look is easy and comfortable (two big pluses when you’re pregnant).

the hang-out dress from hatch collection

8.  Mama Jersey Top from H&M: Simple and easy to pair with any skinny maternity jeans or leggings.

mama jersey top - H&M

9.  Maternity Knitted Dress With V Neck and Pleated Waist from ASOS: the pleated waist and v-neck make this a prego show-stopper. It would also look great with some textured tights and ankle boots.

Maternity Knitted Dress With V Neck and Pleated Waist from ASOS

10. Madison Marcus Long Sleeve Zip Front Maternity Sweater from A Pea in the Pod: I can’t help but love everything in stripes this year. The zipper makes it unique and stylish and are those (gasp) leather pants to pair this with? Amazing!

Madison Marcus Long Sleeve Zip Front Maternity Sweater

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